One of the biggest mistakes a guy can make is treating a cougar like a younger woman. I don’t mean in the respect of buying her gifts, taking her out for dinner or telling her how attractive she is. That kind of stuff is fine, and any woman in the world would lap that stuff up. There’s a world of difference between dating a girl in her early twenties and one in her early forties. For example:
Don’t be needy
There’s no bigger turn off that neediness, especially for older women. Cougars aren’t looking for a guy who is going to hassle them all day asking what they’re up to. They don’t want to be your mother. Hell, they might even have their own kids who constantly pester them for attention. When it comes to dating older women, simply be there when she wants you to be. Don’t make her go out her way for you. She dates younger guys because they’re a convenience, not because they’re a hassle.
Be there on time
It is sometimes said that punctuality is a virtue of the mediocre, but no one who’s said this has ever found themselves dating a hot cougar. Older women don’t want to have to chase you constantly. If you’re dating an older woman, you need to show up at the agreed location on time. You’re supposed to make her life more fulfilling, not let her down and keep her waiting.
Don’t mention the age gap
Sure, most older women don’t mind being referred to as a cougar. It’s a term of endearment. However, don’t constantly mention the differences in age between you two. If you do, you run the risk of making her feel insecure. It will then become a rift between you both, which will eventually result in her replacing you with someone else.
Make sure you’re the kind of guy a cougar chooses
A lot of older women are set in their ways. They were raised in a different world to the one we live in now. Twenty years ago, we didn’t have dating apps, sexting or Snapchat, so we had to hook up with people through good old fashioned flirting. Many cougars and older milfs see flirting as a lost art, especially face to face. Whenever you’re with her or are texting her, make sure to include a hefty dose of flirtatious banter. Older women love being complimented too, maybe even more than their younger counterparts. Likewise, if you’ve already impressed her with your maturity, style and intellect, don’t become so comfortable in the relationship that you revert to being a slob and playing video games. Begin as you mean to go on.
If there’s one thing an older woman can detect a mile off, it’s a liar. Sometimes, you might not be able to see her because you’ve already planned something else, so instead of lying and saying your car has broken down, tell her the truth. Directness is a very attractive trait because it shows that you prefer the truth instead of fiction. Older ladies don’t have time for messing around. They have things to do. The last thing they want is another hassle to deal with.