Sure, you could throw money at dating apps all day and probably get nowhere. If you think about it, when was the last time you actually got a message back on a dating app? Now when you’re trying for a free fuck, you’ll need to employ a number of new tactics.
Tinder and Bumble have become more about boosting self-esteem with matches rather than actually connecting. If You really want to meet someone who’d be down to touch you inappropriately in real life, you’re going to have to tread outside of the realm of dating apps.
1. Reach out to girls
The best way to talk to people is by messaging them either directly or through social media. That’s where people feel the most comfortable. If you reach out, you’ll find that you’ll be likely to get a response.
Plus, it shows that you’re willing to put yourself out there. And not just your dating profile self, but your real self.
Girls will appreciate that you have the balls to slide into the DMs. Yeah, rejection sucks. But when you risk it for the biscuit, you’ll find others will be attracted to that quality.
2. Be friendly
While I don’t mind forwardness, a lot of girls are going to get the wrong idea if you open with a dick pick.
If you want to be forward, that’s fine! Just make sure you’re being respectful about it! I’d make sure to keep nudity and explicit words out of the whole equation until you’re sure that they’re into you!
I’d start by talking about their day or a post they’ve made on social media! Comment on a picture of them that they’ve posted in their DMs and see what happens! My favorite hunting ground is Twitter, so I’d start there.
3. Cast your net wide and wisely
For lack of a better phrase: don’t shit where you eat. By that I mean, don’t message girls who you don’t want to destroy relationships with.
Odds are your friends who you’re currently in the friend zone with, won’t respond to this well unless there’s already been a lot of flirting going on.
So, don’t message any female coworkers or friends unless you’re 100% sure that’s what you want.
4. Be patient
When you’re trying to get at girls online, you have to make sure that you’re not totally ruining your chances by being too forward and by being too pushy.
You have to let the girl decide that she wants you, you can’t be the one that decides that she wants to get with you. So, don’t rush it along, women HATE that.
So, don’t be pushy, instead be patient and you’re much more likely to get laid.
Plus, messaging girls online probably wont come to fruition unless you give it a few days or weeks.
5. Don’t be a dick!
This tip kind of goes hand and hand with the one above… but make sure that you’re not being a total dick.
If you get rejected, be polite about it. If you tell the girl off or tell her she was ugly anyway, odds are you’ll wind up blacklisting yourself to an entire friend-group of girls.
Instead of lashing out, log off and take some time to cool down. You’ll find success, just try a different girl!
One of the biggest mistakes a guy can make is treating a cougar like a younger woman. I don’t mean in the respect of buying her gifts, taking her out for dinner or telling her how attractive she is. That kind of stuff is fine, and any woman in the world would lap that stuff up. There’s a world of difference between dating a girl in her early twenties and one in her early forties. For example:
Don’t be needy
There’s no bigger turn off that neediness, especially for older women. Cougars aren’t looking for a guy who is going to hassle them all day asking what they’re up to. They don’t want to be your mother. Hell, they might even have their own kids who constantly pester them for attention. When it comes to dating older women, simply be there when she wants you to be. Don’t make her go out her way for you. She dates younger guys because they’re a convenience, not because they’re a hassle.
Be there on time
It is sometimes said that punctuality is a virtue of the mediocre, but no one who’s said this has ever found themselves dating a hot cougar. Older women don’t want to have to chase you constantly. If you’re dating an older woman, you need to show up at the agreed location on time. You’re supposed to make her life more fulfilling, not let her down and keep her waiting.
Don’t mention the age gap
Sure, most older women don’t mind being referred to as a cougar. It’s a term of endearment. However, don’t constantly mention the differences in age between you two. If you do, you run the risk of making her feel insecure. It will then become a rift between you both, which will eventually result in her replacing you with someone else.
Make sure you’re the kind of guy a cougar chooses
A lot of older women are set in their ways. They were raised in a different world to the one we live in now. Twenty years ago, we didn’t have dating apps, sexting or Snapchat, so we had to hook up with people through good old fashioned flirting. Many cougars and older milfs see flirting as a lost art, especially face to face. Whenever you’re with her or are texting her, make sure to include a hefty dose of flirtatious banter. Older women love being complimented too, maybe even more than their younger counterparts. Likewise, if you’ve already impressed her with your maturity, style and intellect, don’t become so comfortable in the relationship that you revert to being a slob and playing video games. Begin as you mean to go on.
If there’s one thing an older woman can detect a mile off, it’s a liar. Sometimes, you might not be able to see her because you’ve already planned something else, so instead of lying and saying your car has broken down, tell her the truth. Directness is a very attractive trait because it shows that you prefer the truth instead of fiction. Older ladies don’t have time for messing around. They have things to do. The last thing they want is another hassle to deal with.